Having a child is far from trivial. Whether it’s a birth or an adoption, it’s a life-changing event and it’s good to ask yourself a few questions before you start. Are you really ready to become a mom?
Simple dream or real project?
It is not because we imagine ourselves pregnant or with our child at the end of school that this necessarily means a desire for a child. Having a baby is something concrete that will affect the rest of your life. In addition to pregnancy and childbirth, it is also necessary to think about the education of the child on (at least) the next 20 years. Do you plan in these different stages or not?
And my couple then?
A baby is usually two (even if some choose to make a baby alone). So, before you start, you also need to know and take into account each other’s wishes about it. Is he ready to get involved in this project of life? Because the arrival of a small will inevitably change the balance of the family, to put in the background some activities for the benefit of the well-being and development of the child. And you, do you see yourself raising a child with him?
Can I bring a child what he needs?
Even if having a child is a lot of happiness, it also implies responsibilities (education, care, material assistance …) and a consequent budget. We can not live with love and fresh water! Raising a child, it does indeed have a cost. According to a study published in 2015 by the Directorate of Research, Studies, Evaluation and Statistics (DREES), a couple with one or more children would pay on average 6005 euros per year more than a couple without children (housing, childcare, food, clothing, education, entertainment, health, specific equipment …). And the more the child grows, the more the budget increases.
Discover the results of the study of the Drees
Am I ready “biologically”?
Even if the desire is very big, having a child is not always as easy as you think. The physical / biological aspect is also to be taken into account. Before embarking on the baby adventure, a visit to the doctor is more than advisable if only to check that everything is fine, that you have no problem of fertility. He may also prescribe a vitamin B9 supplement (also known as folic acid), important even before conception to prevent the risk of malformations of the neural tube of the fetus.
Before you start and if everything is OK at the medical level, you must also know how to identify the best times to get pregnant. One of the tips for maximizing your chances is to know your fertility period. Here is an ovulation calculation tool to help you determine this specific moment in your cycle.
And most importantly, do not put pressure on yourself. Getting pregnant is a complex process that can take several months. Even if we estimate the average time to conceive between 7 and 12 months, each woman is different and several factors (contraception, age, fertility …) intervene and can explain why some will have a positive result quickly and others will not.
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